Have you ever suffered a heart ache that was so huge it decimated you on every level? You couldn’t function, you were lost beyond despair? Your grief so huge it was entirely oppressive?
Sadly when this occurs there can become a disconnect between the heart and the mind. The heart just wants to love. When a relationship ends I have seen it where the mind judges the heart and informs it ‘You are stupid for loving that person – they don’t love you back! You made a mistake – you are crazy for feeling that way!”
Adding to our grief of our perceived loss we then judge ourselves and create a further divide within ourselves – when we actually really need ourselves the most.
We need our own words of love and kindness. The heart needs the mind’s support to reconcile what has happened and the mind needs the heart’s love to understand that love is never “lost”. It is constant and what pains the heart the most is when we withhold love.
So, the remedy? For the heart and mind to come back into connection with each other – to support each other, to offer love and wisdom to each other. To understand the beauty and gift of having the experience of loving that precious person but recognising that the most amazing experience is the one we give ourselves. Essentially all our relationships are an energy within us so we determine what occurs, energetically. If someone moves out of our lives we need to allow grace to be present to allow the situation to unfold as it does. Let go and let yourself be open to surrendering to something bigger than yourself – trusting that you ARE love – that it can never be taken away from you.
It’s a good question to ask yourself – do my heart and mind support each other? Are they truly connected? Do they offer each other what they need?
Time a moment to reflect and see what your heart and mind might like to say.
Sending you love and light,
Rebecca
xxx