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Self Forgiveness. Does it seem insurmountable?

Tuesday, June 30th, 2015

Have you ever noticed that it seems easier to forgive other people – and not yourself? Why is that? Possibly because we are A LOT harder on ourselves that we are on others.

I’m sitting with self forgiveness at the moment. I recently re-read some diaries from when I was 17-18 years old. I made a lot of choices that weren’t in my highest and best interest back then. But you know what – they were MY mistakes – and to honour myself now and to set myself free from any shame or guilt, I claim those experiences as a part of me. If I push them outside of myself I’m simply disassociating – which will just slow me down if I want to stay on track with the energy I choose to experience – which is love and joy.

So what to do? ¬†Firstly I’m claiming all those experiences. All those cringe worthy moments of “oooh, I shouldn’t have done that!” – they are mine. All the heaviness, depression, ugliness, sadness, hurt, despair – I totally and completely accept it. Totally. No denial, no diminishing, just total acceptance. In other words I’m choosing to be friends and to LOVE my dark side – the side of myself that we often don’t want others to see.

And then I choose to be free of it.

I believe forgiving ourselves goes something like this – “Yep, I did that. I may have hurt myself or other people in the process but that was what I chose at the time. I know better now. So I choose to let go of the shame, the guilt, the hurt, the pain, the ugliness of it all. I choose to forgive myself, I choose to ask others for forgiveness and I choose to be free. I choose to love myself and be free of this heavy energy once and for all”

Forgiveness is a gift we give to ourselves. When we choose to forgive another we set them free. Our choices are soooooooo powerful!

Will you choose to gift yourself? To give yourself the gift of freedom?

Feels good to me.

Sending you love and light,